Meet Kenan, the youngest member of our family.
Growing up, I was surrounded mainly by women – I have a sister, two foster sisters, and there were several other girls living in our household during our teenage years. I went to an almost all-girls high school, almost all-girls university, I’ve never played a co-ed sport (now that I think of it, I’ve never played a team sport!), and have never really had a close male friend.
The pure thought of having a son petrified me as I never thought I would be able to connect with a little boy. Being constantly surrounded by strong women, you learn a great deal about women’s perspective on things, but I was worried I lacked the other dimension – that would help me understand this child, allow him to freely explore and learn, and grow into a confident and strong boy.
It turns out that Kenan has been a true blessing for our family. He does keep us on our toes with his endless amounts of energy, creative ability to make a mess, and his spirited individualism (we are going through a “no” to everything stage), but he has also taught us to relax, let go, and laugh. His sense of humour is very mature and very contagious. He definitely makes us laugh. He is also very gentle, kind and a child that truly enjoys sharing his food with others (not exactly the same with his toys). He shares his apples, his cheese puffs, even his candy.
Last year (when Kenan was two years old), we went for our vacation to Cabo, in Mexico. That was really hard work as he was constantly running around, jumping into pools, and not willing to sit and eat. All the waiters at our hotel would laugh at us as it was impossible not to notice that woman that would get pulled into the pool in her clothes. (I had no choice: he couldn’t swim!) He became known as “El Travieso,” which is the Spanish translation for “Dennis the Menace.”
Well, our Travieso is definitely not as hard work any more, but he still comes up with the best acts of mischief a child can think of. He is also the cutest kid ever.
Kenan has also taught me that the universe sends us not what we want, but what we need – because we really do need it – to keep growing, learning, and finding ourselves. He has opened the doors for us that I never thought existed. Thanks to having the experience of being a mother to this little boy, I have become a better and humbler person. And also… a much more confident mother.